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A Modern Day Princess Story
Guest Author: Stephanie Banda
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stephanie bandaDaughters of The King is a rite of passage mentoring program for teen girls started by Doreen Hanna of Santa Fe, New Mexico. The program concludes with a special ceremony where each girl is blessed and welcomed into adulthood by a significant man in her life, be it her father or another male authority figure.

Stephanie Banda is a 24-year-old Daughter of the King (DOK) Alumni from Torrance, CA. She was 17 years old when she participated in the program and was blessed by her Pastor, Don Shoji. At the age of 19, she became a middle school youth leader and led her first group of young ladies through a DOK class. Since then, she has facilitated numerous DOK classes in the South Bay of Los Angeles for other groups and churches. Stephanie shares her story:

My younger sister went through the pilot class of Daughters of The King. When I attended the night of celebration, I loved what I saw and I wanted to participate in the class. The next year, when I was 16, Doreen invited me to participate and I ended up with only two other girls in the class.

As I went through, I loved everything about it! Even though my dad wasn't a Christian or a big part of my life, I knew that I would find a godly man who loved me to do my blessing in the end. I asked my pastor to do my blessing and he agreed. It was a very powerful night. He prayed over me and blessed me better than anyone else could have. He prayed that I would hear the voice of God and recognize it and be obedient. I know this blessing has been fulfilled my life.

After I went through the class, I felt like every young lady from the age of 13 to 18 should have the opportunity to go through it as well. I talked to my friends at church about it and decided that if nobody at my church would lead any girls through the class, then I would do it as soon as I could.

Once I graduated from high school and started doing junior high ministry, I decided to take my first group of girls through DOK. There were about five girls who went through the class with me. I loved it! Since then I have taken several groups through DOK, each one a fun and unique experience. This is one of the things I love about facilitating the class. Each group is different than the last. Every girl brings her own unique quality to the group that changes the dynamics in such a neat way. You really get to see how God is using each and every one.

One of the best things at our celebration happened with a young lady whose father is not a believer but gave a very moving blessing. He spoke about how he figured that, being her father, he would have to be strong and guide his daughter. But, in reality she was a light and had been guiding him. So, for him to humble himself in front of a room of about 100 ststephanie wedding dayrangers to say that his daughter was teaching him because of her Christianity-it really caused some tears to fall.

I feel called to bring this class to as many girls as possible, whether I facilitate it or find other women to do it. I think it brings so much to the girls in a way that they can relate to and enjoy. I love the fact that, by spending an hour or two with the girls that participate in DOK each week, you can change their lives in such a beautiful and godly way.

On my own wedding day, I wore my tiara from my celebration. I did this because I loved what it meant to me and how it was a symbol of my royal heritage, as well as how it symbolized the changes I made in my life after going through DOK.

modern day princessComing in January, the book, Raising a Modern-Day Princess. Authors Pam Farrel and Doreen Hanna come alongside mothers and mentors to offer practical help in raising a generation of women to see themselves as God sees them-as daughters of the King, true modern-day princesses. Preorder your copy today!


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