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Contrast: The New Legacy
By Julie Ferwerda
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world of contrastWhat legacy will we pass on to our children? As I was raising my children, it was tempting to focus on things like family traditions, education, experiences, happiness, and even the American Dream. But are these worthy of being our legacy?

In the years since, I've found a theme emerging as I tried to raise my children according to God's plan for them. It is contrast. In almost every way that seems intuitive for raising my children to be successful members of society, I find that God is asking for counterintuitive. He's leading me to a new, seemingly nonsensical way of parenting.

  • Don't try to raise my kids to be happy, raise them to be holy.

  • Teach them to cheerfully choose delayed gratification for a greater end good.

  • Center family traditions on serving others, not on our own little world.

  • As the parent, model something different than what they see parents of the world doing.

  • As the parent, model something different than what they see most "Christian" parents doing.

  • Trade in the American Dream for God-dreams (you can't have both).

  • Teach my children that they are old enough to change their world now.

  • Show them how to do it by being the person God made them to be.

  • Start small. Start now. Finish strong.

God does not merely want our children to be successful members of society who happen to love Him. He wants our children to be successful, passionate, fulfilled, purposeful members of the Kingdom who bleed His blood, cry His tears, and share His heart for the world. Starting today.

Share what you are doing to provide contrast in your family (specific or general)? What fruit are you seeing from it? What obstacles are you facing?

About The Author

Julie Ferwerda with orphanJulie is recognized for making the Bible exciting and relevant to everyday life through her writing and speaking. Her articles are featured in many Christian magazines and websites for both adults and teens, and she frequently volunteers her time and talents to international orphan ministry. When not doing all these things, she lives by her mantra: Life is short, nap hard. Learn more at: »

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